Men lounging with a hand down their pants isn’t just a frat-boy move – it’s a bizarrely common habit seen everywhere from couches to crosswalks.
While it might earn a few side-eyes, this ball-cupping behavior is surprisingly normal.
For many men, putting their hands down their pants is as automatic as checking their phone. It doesn’t necessarily mean anything is wrong or inappropriate. In fact, as bizarre as it might look from the outside, the reasons behind it are rooted in biology, psychology, and plain old comfort.
Warm and cozy
In a popular subreddit called Ask Men, one user asked why her male friends constantly had their hands in their pants, and the responses came pouring in. One said it was “warm down there,” while a second suggested it’s “comforting to lightly massage.”
A third explained that “it’s cozy and makes them feel all safe.” And another joked: “They’re very insecure about their masculinity, so they need to reassure themselves that they still have a penis.”
A few even admitted they barely even noticed they were doing it.
Calming
Psychotherapist Lisa Spitz said the habit is often subconscious and often “self-soothing.”
“I would say that some men touch their genitals mostly as an unconscious act of self-soothing, like checking themselves is an act of masculinity and making sure everything is in its place, a calming technique or even displacement of genitalia,” she told Cosmopolitan.
